Husband? Date? Why?
I received some very good feedback on my previous post, “Date Your Man”. Several readers desired to know what I have done to keep things fresh with my husband after 10 children and 25 years. As I thought about the comments, I put together a list of things I have done to date my husband – ideas I have implemented to show him he is my #1, make him feel and show him he is important even after 25 years. As I begin, I assure you this will be G-rated!
1. Get up with him cheerfully in the morning.
2. In the morning, fix your hair and put on your make-up. My husband has worked in the corporate world with career women most of our married life. I did not want him to leave a “dumpy” wife only to be face with “put together” women the rest of the day.
3. Maintain a proper weight.
4. Exercise regularly for muscle tone, weight control, increased sense of well being (“happy hormones” – endorphins are released with exercise) and energy. My husband appreciates the fact that I take care of myself not only for better health now, but also, for future health. It is like our salvation, many people put off making the decision about where they will spend eternity until it is too late and time has run out. So with our health. What we are now, is a result of decisions we made years ago. Whether it is salvation, relationships, or your health, choose wisely. Make necessary changes now.
5. Have the house in order before he comes home. I have the children help do a quick pick-up of any toys or clutter.
6. Encourage the children’s excitement of his return home. This reinforces that he is not only important to me as my husband but also to them.
7. Stop and greet your husband. I always stop what I am doing and kiss him when he returns home.
8. Make “date” time with him. This can be as simple as a movie together after the children are put to bed. It can be as ellaborate as planning a night out, complete with babysitter, restaurant plans, movie tickets – use your imagination. I once planned a weekend away and all he knew was that we were going away together. I even packed for him!
The key: You do the planning and surprise him!
9. Create a romantic atmosphere. For example, Light candles when alone , after the children are in bed or while watching a movie together.
10. Have coffee together. As we call it, “Mommy, Daddy time”. Our children are old enough to clean up after meals, so, we take advantage of this opportunity to have “Mommy, Daddy time” with a cup of coffee.
11. Take a walk or bike ride together. We enjoy early morning walks/bike rides together.
Use your imagination. Surprise your husband. Don’t let life get in the way. Take the time now and invest in one of the most important relationships you have!