In our society, it is all too easy to neglect and take for granted those who should be the most important to us. Whether because of busyness or inattentiveness, it is easy to forget that our husband needs to know how important he is to us. Keeping love fresh does not happen by accident!
I would like to encourage each of you not to let life get in the way. Use your imagination, surprise your husband, take the time now and invest in one of the most important relationships you have!
It is hard to believe that this year, I will have been married to the same man for 28 years! After being married for so long and having 10 children together, I can honestly say that I love him more now than I did when we married. I would never have thought it possible, but I do. Life’s experiences have strengthened our relationship. We know each other’s strengths and weaknesses. We are committed to each other and to our family.
While I could, and will, give you a “to-do” list, I think the most important point to be made is to spend time with each other – quality time. It could be as simple as a cup of coffee together sharing the day’s events, or, as elaborate as restaurant reservations for dinner complete with baby sitter.
My “to-do” list also includes:
1. Get up with your husband – even if you go back to bed once he leaves.
2. Tend to your health – Proper eating and exercise not only make you healthier but also give you more energy, increase muscle tone and help with future health. Exercise releases endorphins which give you a greater sense of well being – I like to call them “happy hormones”. We can all use them! Eating properly will also help you achieve a healthy weight which gives more energy and an overall better outlook on life.
3. Romance – Create a romantic atmosphere. For example: Light candles when alone, after the children are in bed and talk or watch a movie together.
Now that John no longer goes to a regular, 6:30am – 4:00 pm job, but is home working in the vineyard, it would be easy to forget that “we” still need time together. Time, just the two of us, to share our thoughts, feelings and dreams with each other. Even after 28 years, I need to remind myself of the importance of making special time with him.
And, I want to encourage you also, to make time for your spouse and keep the love fresh.
It does not just happen by accident!
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